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Woah there guys, sorry I haven’t updated in a while. I haven’t been getting the information very far in advance until, well, just now.

We didn’t have a meeting last week due to business on the part of our officers, and before that was a simple video meeting where we watched Annie Sprinkle’s Amazing World of Orgasm (it was enlightening! or, well, that’s the best word I have for it.)

So, sorry to leave you all unaware, but the information hasn’t been reaching me before Saturday as of late and clearly I need more than a day to write an effective post. Whoops! As an apology, I’m going to include you on the planning of our next meeting! We’re going to be watching another video, though which one is entirely up in the air and will be until, say, the meeting (same bat-time, same bat-place as always!). These are the choices we have:

Expert Guide to Anal Sex
Expert Guide to Oral Sex (This is a two part-er: one for Cunnilingus, one for Fellatio.)
Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage
120 Days of Sodom
Graphic Sexual Horror

So, what say you, readers? What sounds most interesting to you? Leave comments if you’d like to cast a vote, or just e-mail Zeke (since people who are on the mailing list should get that list from him; if you’re not on the mailing list and are a student who attends our meetings, just say so)!

Once again, sorry for leaving you all in the dark for nearly three weeks. I’ll try not to let that happen in the future! Peace out, my friends!

Hello all! I hope you’re enjoying Sex Week! Lee is such a fantastically nice person, and a wonderful lecturer. If you haven’t come to any of the events yet, be sure to show up at Friday’s Humor and Sex lecture from 5-6pm in LabSci 300!

Our regular meeting will take place next week, as it always does, in DUC 232 on Sunday from 7-9pm. We’re on for bringing in the writers from X-Magazine next week, which if you haven’t found out yet is the school’s sex magazine. It’s a wonderful publication that goes out every semester (I believe). They’re going to run a workshop on writing erotica, so if you want to learn how to write sexy (and perhaps kinky) things, drop by and hear what they have to say!

If you’re a new reader of this humble little blog, be sure to drop by and meet the members of the ALA! We certainly don’t bite (unless asked), and we’re always looking for new members and willing to help anyone who might want a word of our expertise!

Peace out!

Alright, Sex Week starts tomorrow guys, and hopefully you’re coming to at least some of our events! Unfortunately, activities fair was canceled/postponed, but we’ll be updating you if that comes back. Let’s not worry about that though; the weather was pretty terrible. So: Sex Week! Read below for times and places; longer descriptions are in the previous post. It took a long time getting these out there; we’re all sorry about that on this end!

Monday: Kink 101 from 5:30-7:00PM in January 110
Tuesday: 31 Flavors of Erotic Rope from 5:30-7:00PM in Eliot 216
Wednesday: The Power of Gender and Sexual Identity Labels from 5:00-6:30PM in Wilson 214
Thursday: Introduction to “Alternative” Relationship Structures from 6:30-8:00PM in Seigle 1006
Friday: Humor and Intimacy from 5:00-6:00PM in LabSci 300

We hope to see you there! There are, of course, other events, but these are the events we’ve sponsored by bringing in Lee Harrington, who you can read about below as well.

Additionally, we hope that our next meeting will feature X-Magazine bringing in some writers to do a workshop on writing erotica, but that might be the week after next. Either way, it should be an exciting meeting! I’ll keep you updated on this site, so stay tuned!

(Most of these can be found on Lee’s, blog, passionandsoul.com

Kink 101: An Introduction to Creative Sexual Exploration and Play (Monday, Feb. 7, 5:30-6PM)

Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism. These words elicit for many people a sense of titillation, or of dread. In this humorous and accessible approach to learning about alternative and sometimes edgy sexual practices, we will be looking at what draws people to this wide array of kinky sex interests, as well as other similar topics such as fetishism, voyeurism, exhibitionism, varies relationship structures, swinging and more. After looking at what kinky sex is and why people get into it, we will have an opportunity to look at the laws around these activities, the variety of types of things people enjoy in spicy bedroom (and out of the bedroom) games, the tools used, and how these things can be and are safe to explore. Bring your sense of humor, your curiosity, and your questions to this opportunity to learn about the wide variety of sexual expression found in BDSM and Kinky Sex.

31 Flavors of Erotic Rope (Tuesday, Feb. 8, 5:30-6PM)

Think that kinky play is too complicated? With a single piece of rope (provided for you, and you get to take it home), learn from Lee Harrington, the author of “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé” a whole bundle of fun, sensual and kinky things to do with just one rope. From leashes to improvised whips, erotic restraint to playing dress up, gags to blindfolds, rope has so many more possibilities to be used in an erotic scenario. Come learn some new tricks, or learn your first tie!

What Labels Give Us, What Labels Take Away: The Power of Gender and Sexual Identity Labels (Wednesday, Feb. 9, 5-6:30PM)

Before many of us were born, we were given gender labels that set our life course in motion. In this discussion and personally explorative class, we will dive into looking at a variety of questions: What labels have you been gifted, inherited, chosen, been forced into, or run away from? How does your internal identity for yourself affect your outside identity and your interpretation of gender and sexual roles you play or fill? What power do your labels grant you for flirting, community exposure, personal interactions, group dynamics, and more? What do you lose by stating a specific label or expressing it physically at first meeting another individual? How are these labels all formed, and why don’t we just scrap them all? Labels can get us hot, labels can turn us off, labels drive us mad, and labels give us hope for claiming our own sense of self. Let’s challenge ourselves, look deep inside, then examine how it all affects the current communities we each play a part in.

Open Hearts, Open Minds: Exploring “Alternative” Relationship Structures (Thursday, Feb. 10, 6:30-8PM)

Modern romance dictates that a single individual should fulfill all of our needs- from sharing joys and fears, co-parenting and financial commitments to sexual happiness, identity confirmation and spiritual fulfillment. Is this fair? We will look into what relationships give us, then explore a wide variety of relationship structures that are being employed to have people fill all of their needs. Monogamy and serial monogamy are valid options, but what about polyamory, swinging, pre-arranged trysts, friends with benefits, and more? How do we communicate in our relationships to make whatever structure we choose actually work, and of course we’ll plunge into issues like jealousy vs. envy, new relationship energy, and making each of our friends and partners feel like the unique person they are in our lives.

Laughing Our Way to Intimacy: Humor and Sex (Friday, Feb. 11, 5-6PM)

We’ve each had those moments — when the vibrator goes flying or the stereo goes off with just the wrong song, and suddenly sex has turned into hilarity. But looking beyond the accidents that make for funny stories later, how can we incorporate humor and comedy to purposefully add spice, connection, intimacy or variety to our bedroom (and other) erotic adventures? Exploring the different schools of comedy from absurdity and slapstick to satire, black comedy and dry observation, we will see how each can be included in our sexual escapades. Whether you are using humor to try something new, push a boundary, look back on past pain, or simply PLAY — this class is for you.

About Lee Harrington:

Lee Harrington is a passionate spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience. He is a nice guy with a disarmingly down to earth approach to the fact that we are each beautifully complex ecosystems, and we deserve to examine the human experience from that lens. He’s been traveling the globe (from Seattle to Sydney, Berlin to Boston), teaching and talking about sexuality, psychology, faith, desire and more since 1995, and has no intention to stop any time soon. Along the way he has been a brainy academic, a female adult film performer, a world class sexual adventurer, an outspoken philosopher, a long-time sexuality and faith blogger (since 1998), a spirit worker and priest, and an award winning author and artist. Check out the trouble he has been getting into, as well as his many books, audio classes, videos and more over at www.PassionAndSoul.com.

Hello everyone! Our vice-president was looking to delegate this website to some poor schlub someone else because she’s busy, and I happen to like rambling on the internets. So, allow me to introduce myself: I’m a freshman member of the ALA, and a lifelong kinkster. By that, I mean I have been since I figured out it wasn’t normal to like seeing people tied up, etc. I have a phobia of my own name in type, so call me Linny!

The big topic of the moment is Sex Week, of course, which is February 7-12. As of last night, the budget’s been approved so the things mentioned in the previous post are underway! The five classes Lee’ll be doing are:

Monday: Kink 101: An Introduction to Creative Sexual Exploration and Play
Tuesday: Workshop: 31 Flavors of Erotic Rope
Wednesday: What Labels Give Us, What Labels Take Away: The Power of Gender and Sexual Identity Labels
Thursday: Open Hearts, Open Minds: Exploring “Alternative” Relationship Structures
Friday: Laughing Our Way to Intimacy: Humor and Sex (this one’s going to be a hit, haha!)

I don’t know the times on these off the top of my head, so I’ll update with that when Diana tells me (she’ll be impressed I remembered the classes)! You can read more on the website linked in the previous post!

Additionally, we of the ALA will be doing our thing at the Activities Fair next Monday, January 31. Drop by and say hello! I’ll be doing my drag king thing. (Hey, that rhymes.) We kind of stand out, so you’ll find us!

Finally, to reiterate, we haven’t got everything planned out for the semester just yet. If you have any ideas (or just things you’d like to see) for discussions, workshops, speakers, etc., then comment on this blog or shoot me/Diana/Zeke an email! Or find us in person, I suppose. We’re a friendly group open to anyone, and more importantly, we intend to be an on-campus resource for safe advice about the kinkier side of life. Don’t feel like you have to be some kind of fetish fiend to join us!

I’ll be updating with meeting topics as soon as I know them myself. In case you’re new or just forgot, our meetings are at 7pm on Sundays, in DUC 232 (right by the Fun Room). We’re NOT meeting next Sunday on account of activities fair, but after that, regular meetings will begin anew and I will be keeping the content of those posted here, as well as any interesting related material I find in my internet rovings.

You stay classy, WashU!

Welcome back, everyone!  I hope everyone is looking forward to a fresh start with a new year!  I’ve been thinking about next semester for a LONG TIME, but now it’s time for everyone else to start looking forward to what we’ve got planned!  The first event of next semester, after the Activities Fair in late January, will be Sexual Awareness Week, or Sex Week for short.  The ALA is bringing Lee Harrington to St. Louis for FIVE awesome classes, one each night from Monday, February 7 – Friday, February 11, so get excited!!  (check out Lee’s blog: passionandsoul.com)

There are lots of opportunities for everyone to get involved, so please drop me a line if you’d like to help out.  I’m also working on the calendar for the rest of the semester, so if anyone has any desires for particular workshops or speakers, now would also be an excellent time to let me know.  Otherwise, the semester’s events will get posted as they come up, and of course you’ll learn about them almost as soon as I do if you come to our meetings, which will reconvene as soon as we get back to school.  I look forward to making this the best semester the ALA has had in a long time, so stay tuned!

Remember Kendra’s story from when she came in to speak to us?  We sympathized, and promised to help in any way we could.  If that meant anything to you, personally, this is your opportunity to show your support.  This is an email she sent out today:

“Dear Friends,

It feels like a bad dream. A lot of notable things have transpired since the RFT article featuring me in October was published. While plenty of it has been good, the worst thing imaginable has reared its ugly head:

I have officially received the lawsuit papers from my ex-husband – he is suing me for full custody of my daughter.

The reasons listed in the lawsuit all point to my sexuality.I am shocked and disappointed that my ex would resort to  this, as previously he supported my decision to come out.

I am contacting lawyers today, and have set up a legal defense fund.

Please, I need your help.

You can donate by visiting my new business website http://beopenandhonest.com/ and clicking on the Donate button at the bottom of the page (you don’t have to have a pay pal account, a credit or debit card will do) or by sending donations to:

Kendra Holliday
PO Box 142373
St Louis MO 63114

If you cannot spare $5 or any other amount, you can help by sharing the link below and my story with your network and the media. I have reached out to every media outlet and organization I can think of, but I am only one voice. You can also donate via The Sexual Freedom and Legal Defense Fund http://www.sfldef.org/ – please enter my name in the special instructions box once you click on the Donate button.

You can read more here: http://thebeautifulkind.com/columns/tbk-saga/its-official-i-need-your-help

Thank you so much for your help and support,
Kendra”

Hi all–

I’d like to get a sense of people’s feelings about a Fetish Party/Speed Dating Fundraising event next semester.  I’m brainstorming while I type, but I’m getting an image of something like Vertigo (except almost definitely on a smaller scale, though I hope not!), open to the whole school, no dress requirements, but fetishwear costumes encouraged.  We could make Speed Dating a part of that if you like (some people expressed great interest in this possibility), and with good advertisement and a reasonable entrance fee, it could potentially be very successful all around!  I want to see lots of comments!  If you are not from Wash U, any helpful hints about kink party etiquette, or even just how to throw a party for college kids would be very much appreciated!

Also, just to get your thoughts started, check out the Wikipedia page for the original Handkerchief Code:

Also, a special thanks to those who contributed to next semester’s plans; everyone else will learn about them after break!  There will be no more ALA meetings until late January, so I hope everyone has a lovely winter holiday!

This is a map someone made for a large number of common fetishes.  As we all know by Rule #34, there are infinitely many more fetishes, but this covers about 90% of them, I’d say.  Check it out! http://alfredo.octavio.net/files/aoctavio_fetishmapbig.gif (thanks to Derek Miller for showing it to me)

AND, here’s another chart of non-monogamous relationships, just to include the other side of the topical coverage of our club: http://www.obsidianfields.com/lj/nonmonogamy2.5.gif (thanks to Master SkyWolf for bringing this one to my attention)

Guess what?  The Stereotypes are going kinky.  Check out our Events! page for the information.  Who are the Stereotypes?  They’re one of WashU’s finest all-male a cappella groups (I must admit that’s a fetish of mine… but don’t take my word for how awesome they are!  Go to the concert and see for yourself!), and this concert is structrued like a male beauty pageant (how can you not want to go now?!), and they’re borrowing some personal items generously donated by your very own ALA officers, so YOU SHOULD BE THERE TO SUPPORT THIS FANTASTICNESS!!  Really.  This Friday and Saturday, 8pm, May Auditorium (in the Business school).  Be there.

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