Coming up! (March 24 – April 28, 2014)

The next two weeks are pretty big for us, so be prepared! Next Monday, March 24, from 7:30 to 9 PM, we’re having a workshop on Informal and Formal Negotiation, taught by a local kink community member. We don’t have a location for you yet, but we expect to get one very soon, so keep an eye out here. It’s in DUC 236.

The week after next is Sexual Awareness Week here at Wash U, and having won our Treasury appeal we’re very happy to announce two events that we are really looking forward to. Lee Harrington, a noted educator and kink/bondage expert, will be returning to Wash U to teach two workshops. (Side note: his introduction on his own website, found here, is really awesome, and I don’t want to put words in his mouth, so I’d suggest reading it! I can’t wait to meet him.) Workshop #1 will be ’31 Flavors of Erotic Rope,’ held on Monday 3/31 from 7 to 9 PM in Seigle 304:

“Think that kinky play is too complicated?  With a single piece of rope (provided for you, and you get to take it home), learn from Lee Harrington, the author of “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé” a whole bundle of fun, sensual and kinky things to do with just one rope.  From leashes to improvised whips, erotic restraint to playing dress up, gags to blindfolds, rope has so many more possibilities to be used in an erotic scenario. Come learn some new tricks, or learn your first tie!”

Our rope workshops in the past have been popular, and the GSRM/LGBTQIAP-welcome spin that Lee Harrington brings promises to be fantastic. Come see us at this beginner/intermediate-oriented rope event, and learn something new!

Note that the second workshop carries a content warning for discussion of self-harm.

Workshop #2 will be on Tuesday, 4/1 from 7 to 9 PM in Seigle L003. It’ll be ‘Cutting and Kink: Examining Self-Injurious Behavior, Erotic Play & Body Modification’:

“Individuals self-injure and cut for many reasons: abuse, depression, attention seeking, pain management, rage, anxiety, and more. For kink sexuality, BDSM and body modification community explorers, there are possible alternative outlets for these needs, or physically and energetically safer ways to engage in these behaviors. For these individuals, the same scars born of shame and disgust become marks of honor and survival, or take on other different meanings. In this class we will be presenting findings from interviews conducted within the BDSM and body modification communities among those who have previously been or continue to be cutters (or others using cutting or skin-breaking self-injury behavior as a tool not related to erotic or artistic partnered activities). We will examine those who have transformed their need for self-mutilation into other forms of expression, or have maintained both sets of behaviors, looking at whether healthy cutting can ever take place in individual’s lives.”

We’re really looking forward to this discussion of the intersection of kink and mental health, and we hope to see you there! (This will be a more intimate event, held in the basement of Seigle; if cutting has touched your life, or if this is otherwise a sensitive topic, please know that you will be in a safe and discreet space. If you feel okay doing so, contact us at and let us know how we can make you feel comfortable.)


Sex Week is Here!

That’s right – Sexual Responsibility Week takes Wash U by storm starting Monday, February 4.  Check out our calendar for information about all the events.  Also useful are the Sex Week 2013 Facebook page and the Sex Week 2013: Kink Day Facebook page.  Be sure to check out these events put on by the ALA:

Bringing Sexy Back:  A Contest to Make WashU More Sex Positive

Monday, Feb. 4, 5-7:30 PM in Umrath Lounge

Link to the Facebook event


Sex Week: Kink Day on February 6th

Link to the Facebook event

Workshops include:
o Leather History and Culture (Interactive Discussion)
o Shibari Rope Bondage Basics (Workshop and Demo)
o Power Exchange and Play (Interactive Discussion)
o Exploring Your Sexuality (Interactive Discussion)

See the flyer on the Facebook event for more details!

Impact Play Rescheduled!

Good news!  The Impact Play workshop that fell off the calendar during midterm season is back on!  It will be held at our usual time, 5-7 PM Thursday, Nov. 1 (location TBA).  Check back here for updates!

Impact play includes spanking, flogging, paddles, whips, and a lot more – especially if one is creative. 😉

This workshop will also emphasize how to be safe when practicing impact.  It’s kind of really important.

Welcome back

Thanks to those who’ve been anxiously checking WashUAltLife for signs of life this semester – we’re finally showing some!  The important upcoming dates, which will also be posted in the calendar, are these:

Wednesday, Sept. 5, 4:30-6p: Activities Fair in the Brookings Quad

Thursday, Sept. 6, 5-7p: Rope Bondage Workshop, led by guest presenter T0ne in the DUC, room TBA

The first rope bondage workshop will be very introductory, and there may be a follow up workhshop to explore Shibari rope bondage in more depth if there is interest.

We hope to see you around!

New Calendar!

Hi all!  I’m pleased to report that we’ve now added the Shameless Grounds calendar to our Events! page, so you can check in what delightfully fun events they’re planning at the same time you’re checking to see what we’re up to!  We highly encourage you to attend any and all events that look interesting to you – Shameless Grounds is a fabulous and professional establishment with a strong passion for safe, sane, and consensual education about kink…and they have great food!  If you would like to attend any of their events but either need a ride or want someone to go with, just drop us a line, and we’ll be happy to show you around. 😀

New Workshops!

Good news!  This semester we have a lot of fun new discussions and workshops planned, so be sure to check our This Week! page for updated information about what we will be doing each week.  The page should be updated by the Friday before a Sunday meeting at the latest.  Due to some scheduling conflicts, we will send out a few WhenIsGood calendars to see if we should hold particular workshops at a different time or on a different day, so keep an eye out for those, too, and if there is a date change, we will be sure to update this site as early as possible!  As dates are confirmed, they will also be added to our events calendar, so keep an eye on that, too!

First up, don’t miss the alternative relationships discussion meeting this Sunday!