Resources

Here we have compiled a list of some of our favorite sex-positive professionals, groups, organizations, businesses, websites, books, videos etc. This Resources page offers links to organizations that can help you if you ever need help, and/or with which you can get involved, or at least check out for more information.  Some of these links may overlap with those on our “Supplements” page, but the links there are primarily intended as optional extra reading material, and can only offer help, advice, or resources in the form of text.  The websites on this page will link you to people.  We recommend you familiarize yourself with the links on both pages.  To reach the officers and advisors of the ALA, direct questions to info@washualtlife.org, or talk to us in a meeting.  Quotes are from the linked website.

WashU Resources

On-Campus Counseling

Student Health Services

  • “SHS supports the academic mission of Washington University by providing the student community with premiere, student-centered health and health promotion services.”  

    This is your online source for information about physical and emotional health care services on campus, health insurance, and general wellness issues important to Washington University students. SHS is located in the basement of Nathan Dardick House on the South 40.**

     

Student Organizations

Committee Organized for Rape Education (C.O.R.E.)

  • This is a “Co-Ed peer education and facilitation group specializing in sexual assault related issues.”

Emergency Support Team (EST)

  • The Washington University Emergency Support Team is a student-run volunteer first responder emergency medical service for the Danforth campus, active 24 hours a day, 7 days a week during the fall and spring semesters.

    In the case of a medical emergency, dial (314) 935-5555. If calling from a campus phone, dial 5-5555 (“Fistful of Fives”).”

Keshet

  • Keshet is the pluralistic association of Jewish lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, and allied (GLBTQA) students. This group encourages awareness of GLBTQA issues, inspires GLBTQA advocacy, builds and maintains alliances with the ally community, and creates a comfortable social atmosphere for GLBTQA students. Keshet promotes full religious and social equality for Jews of all sexual orientations and gender identities.*

LGBT Student Involvement and Leadership

  • “This site is an online clearinghouse providing information about events, resources, programs, and volunteer opportunities designed for Washington University’s LGBT [Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender] community.  You can also register for the free weekly OUTthere electronic newsletter.  This newsletter provides timely information relevant to LGBT folk and their allies about events and opportunities around campus and in the St. Louis community.”  This is an excellent resources for LGBT students and their allies.

Men Organized for Rape Education (M.O.R.E.)

  • MORE is an all-male organization that offers an alternative perspective on how men can help prevent sexual assault and rape as well as ways to better support survivors. MORE strongly believes in the power of peer-to-peer dialogue in making a positive impact on our members, friends, fraternity brothers and teammates. MORE provides members with cutting-edge research, communication skills, and a chance to expand and shape your own thoughts and beliefs about social issues as well as challenge our peers to do the same.**

WashU Pride Alliance

  • “Pride Alliance is a multi-focus GLBTQIA (gay, genderqueer, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, ally, asexual) group open to all Wash U students, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression. Our goals are to advocate GLBTQIA-friendly public policies through activism and greater awareness, to educate the WU community about GLBTQIA issues, and to build a supportive social network for GLBTQIA students. Email: pridewu@gmail.com”

Safe Zones

  • “Safe Zones is a student organization at Washington University in St. Louis dedicated to promoting awareness of and education about gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, and ally (GLBTQIA) issues.”

S.A.R.A.H.

  • “S.A.R.A.H. stands for the Sexual Assault and Rape Anonymous Helpline. We are student run helpline based out of Washington University in St. Louis that offers counseling, resources and referrals on rape, sexual assault, abuse, relationships, and health. We are completely confidential and available as a resource to members of the Washington University community 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.”

Social Justice Center (SJC)

  • “The SJC serves to centralize the efforts within the Washington University community to combat prejudice and promote social justice. The SJC is staffed by student workers, and there is a student group associated with the Center.  The SJC student group is a student-run organization that promotes awareness and understanding of social justice and diversity issues by providing education, facilitations, and resources.”

Uncle Joe’s

  • Uncle Joe’s peer counseling and resource center offers completely confidential counseling on any topic to the entire WashU community.  It is run and staffed by highly trained WashU students, and offers a resource library to all students, as well as referrals to over 100 organizations in the surrounding St. Louis area.

*Information quoted from http://shs.wustl.edu/healthPromotion/coming_out.htm

**Information quoted from http://unclejoe.wustl.edu/?q=Wash%20U%20Links

Local Organizations

Note: some groups are age-restricted

Bisexual Alliance of St. Louis (B.A.S.L.)

  • “Bisexual Alliance of St. Louis (BASL or “basil”) is a social networking / social support group founded in 1994 that understands bisexuality as a normal part of everyday life. Our goal is to develop a sense of community and mutual support within the Saint Louis metropolitan region. We are simply people who love regardless of gender.”

Fetish Lifestyle Open Group (F.L.O.G.)

  • FLOG is dedicated to providing an open, friendly, safe, and educational atmosphere all under one roof.”  This is a play based 21+ group which hosts a social event each month at which people can meet others in the community, browse goods from local vendors and, if they wish, make use of the group’s equipment for play in the designated dungeon area.

The LGBT Community Center of Metropolitan St. Louis

  • “The mission of The Lesbian Gay Bi Transgender Community Center of Metropolitan St. Louis is to provide service to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning and ally community of St. Louis and its surrounding areas through education, outreach, healthy living and community building.”

Ouroboros Levi/Leather Club

  • “Ouroboros {pronounced or-ah-boar-us} is a Levi/Leather club whose main focus is Diversity and acceptance in the Leather/Kink and Vanilla community for all persons,Trans, hetro, gay, lesbian and whatever else and to provide for the promotion, support and development of the Leather/Levi community through hospitality, camaraderie, social and educational issues which are viable to the community at large.”

People Exchanging Power (P.E.P.)

  • An S&M message with love from Nancy Ava Miller: In 1986, driven by my own desires, desperation, loneliness & sexual obsession, I created PEP — People Exchanging Power S&M support network. The PEP phenomenon — fueled by my vision & efforts, plus the efforts of others — spread from Albuquerque (my home) to Washington, Phoenix, Philadelphia, Atlanta, St. Louis, and elsewhere throughout the U.S. My purpose then and now: To help those with the same longings and obsessions that led me to create PEP in the first place. Today, though, PEP is more than a chain of support groups. The groups still exist, of course, but if you need to talk, the PEP phone counselors (articulate & enlightened ladies) are available any hour for erudite dialogue—passionate & compassionate, kinky & raunchy, informed & unique!” (WARNING: This page contains adult content.)

Planned Parenthood

  • “For over 75 years, Planned Parenthood has been the leading provider, educator and protector for reproductive health care in St. Louis.”

PROMO

  • “PROMO is Missouri’s statewide organization advocating for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender equality through legislative action, electoral politics, grassroots organizing, and community education.”

STL3, Inc. (formerly known as St. Louis Leather & Lace)

  • “StL3, Inc. (formerly known as St. Louis Leather and Lace), is a group dedicated to the free expression of alternative lifestyles and forms of loving.”  This is a 21+ membership organization which hosts regular monthly education and play events for its members as well as monthly social gatherings for perspective members to meet current members.  Topics discussed in this group are for a more advanced audience.

The St. Louis Gender Foundation

  • “The Saint Louis Gender Foundation (StLGF) is a resource group of, by, and for crossdressers, transgenderists, transsexuals, androgynous individuals, and those who care about them. The organization reaches out to all “gender questioning” adults and significant others regardless of race, religion, biological sex, marital status, or sexual orientation. By providing a nurturing atmosphere, we encourage personal growth and, self-acceptance, and provide opportunities for making new friends.”

For more groups near your hometown, check out this website.

National Organizations

American Social Health Association (ASHA)

  • “The American Social Health Association is a trusted, non-profit organization that has advocated on behalf of patients to help improve public health outcomes since 1914. We are America’s authority for sexually transmitted infection information.”

Asexual Visibility Education Network (AVEN)

  • “AVEN hosts the world’s largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality. AVEN strives to create open, honest discussion about asexuality among sexual and asexual people alike.”

Equality Across America (EAA)

  • “Our One Single Demand: Equal protection in all matters governed by civil law in all 50 states.”  An organization of/for LGBTQ activists.

Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD)

  • “The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) amplifies the voice of the LGBT community by empowering real people to share their stories, holding the media accountable for the words and images they present, and helping grassroots organizations communicate effectively. By ensuring that the stories of LGBT people are heard through the media, GLAAD promotes understanding, increases acceptance, and advances equality.”

Human Rights Campaign (HRC)

  • “The Human Rights Campaign represents a grassroots force of over 750,000 members and supporters nationwide. As the largest national lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights organization, HRC envisions an America where LGBT people are ensured of their basic equal rights, and can be open, honest and safe at home, at work and in the community.”

Intersex Society of North America (ISNA)

  • “The Intersex Society of North America (ISNA) is devoted to systemic change to end shame, secrecy, and unwanted genital surgeries for people born with an anatomy that someone decided is not standard for male or female”

The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction

  • “The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University works towards advancing sexual health and knowledge worldwide. For over 60 years, the institute has been a trusted source for investigating and informing the world about critical issues in sex, gender and reproduction.”

National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE)

  • “The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) is a 501(c)3 social justice organization dedicated to advancing the equality of transgender people through advocacy, collaboration and empowerment.”

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

  • “The NCSF is committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions.  The NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.  We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit these communities.”

Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)

  • “Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) is a national non-profit organization with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States. This vast grassroots network is cultivated, resourced and serviced by the PFLAG National Office, located in Washington, D.C., the national Board of Directors and 13 Regional Directors.”

San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI)

  • “San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI) trains people to become sex educators and operates a free information and referral switchboard. We provide free, confidential, accurate, non-judgmental information about sex and reproductive health. If you have a question about sex, we’ll either answer it or refer you to someone who can. Our volunteers undergo extensive training in all aspects of human sexuality, including reproduction, birth control, safer sex practices, HIV and other STDs, sexual identity, and gender identity.”

Local & Online Shopping

Our sponsors are denoted by an asterisk (*)

*Aja Rope

  • “We specialize in hand-processed and dyed hemp rope.  We also sell rope-related hardware, safety supplies, and accessories, along with cotton rope and nylon cord.”

BDSM Toybox (online)

  • This website offers high-end products from BDSM gear and fetish wear to DVDs and books, and has a pretty wide selection for all.

*Cheap TRX

  • “Alternative Shopping in St. Louis… your one stop shop for all your alternative needs… we offer a full line of gifts, clothing, adult novelties, DVD’s, and one of the largest selections of pride merchandise in St. Louis, and we offer 2 floors loaded with stuff to make your shopping experience one to remember.”

Fetish Flair (online)

  • “Fetish Flair offers leather and vinyl bras, garter belts, bikinis, tops, halters, corsets, bustiers, shorts, pants, dresses, costumes,  stripper clothes, dance wear, club wear, leather and vinyl lingerie, harnesses, head gear, gloves, masks, BDSM collars, BDSM fine jewelry and fetish accessories including floggers, whips, slappers, restraints, cuffs, collars, gloves, and more.”  Offers many items in plus sizes up to 12x.

Leather Passions (online)

  • Bull Martin’s Leather Passions and Fashions is a great online resource for BDSM gear and fetish wear.

*TRX Tattoos and Piercings

  • “At TRX, we pride ourselves on our service.  From the moment you step foot in the shop, we will work our hardest to get you exactly what it is you are looking for — tattoo or piercing.”

For a comprehensive catalog of excellent erotic/fetish/BDSM books, movies, and music, and links to order them from Amazon.com, also check out the Shopping Mall on the Leather and Roses website.

Tristan Toramino’s website also sells a wide variety of gear, wear, and informational books and DVDs.

Medical Help

WashU Student Health Services

  • see description in “WashU Resources” section

STD Testing close to campus

  • If you are ever worried about STDs, this is the place to go.  Dr. Dalu is wonderful (I went to his office myself to get tested) and his office is right next to the Esquire movie theater.  He will give you a private consultation and test for ALL STDs, and do everything he can to make it FREE for you (save your co-pay).  If you can, you should get tested about every six months, because some diseases won’t give positive results on a test unless they’ve been in your system that long.
  • IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO HIV: go to a hospital immediately and ask for PEP: post-exposure prophylaxis.  If you get this within 48 hours of exposure, your chances of contracting the virus yourself are significantly reduced.  This webpage from the World Health Organization has more information on PEP.

Kink-Aware Professionals (KAP) Program

  • Sometimes people don’t look so good after a scene.  This isn’t always intended or even a good thing under any circumstances, but if someone gets hurt, it can be a problem, because an ordinary professional might think the problem is worse than it is.  Kink-aware professionals will not call the police on your play partner (necessarily) because they were caning you and accidentally broke your leg; they’ll just help fix your leg.  If you get involved in the BDSM scene, this is a very good thing to check out.

Legal Help

NCSF Incident Response

  • “NCSF’s Incident Response was created to provide assistance to individuals and groups within the alternative sexual expression communities. If you engage in SM, fetish, swing or polyamory practices, and are being persecuted or discriminated against because of it, please contact NCSF.”

People

The following (with the exception of the Wiki page on Jack McGeorge) are personal blogs/webpages of public figures in the sexual world.  All maintain their websites in the hopes of spreading knowledge (many are self-titled “sex educators”), though not all are kinky.  The ALA does not endorse what is posted on any of these websites, though as individuals, we generally agree with most of it.  Please feel free to ask us any questions you may have.

Annie Sprinkle

Jack Rinella

Jack McGeorge (Wiki page)

Jay Wiseman

Johnny Murdoc

Kendra Holliday, a.k.a. The Beautiful Kind

Lee Harrington (*recently added!)

Madame Erotique

Nina Hartley

Sue Johnson

Susie Bright

Tristan Toramino (she came for Sex Week last year!)

Online Advice

The Beautiful Kind

  • “Kinky Stories & Relationship/Sex Advice”

Talk Sex With Sue Johnson

  • Sue Johanson is Canada’s foremost sexual educator and counsellor, recipient of the distinguished Order of Canada. For the last 35 years, she has provided frank and honest sexual education to thousands of Canadians through her lectures, radio programs, and the Sunday Night Sex Show on television.  From 2002 until 2008, Sue’s wisdom and experience was available to American viewers on Talk Sex with Sue Johanson, a live phone-in program airing on Oxygen TV. Weekly production ended in May 2008, andOxygen continues to broadcast previously recorded episodes. Talk Sex also airs in Brazil, Canada, Israel, and in 20 European countries in 5 languages on ClubTV.

Also check out Sue Johnson’s page of national hotlines and websites for a wide variety of topics including birth control, STDs/STIs, GLBT matters, sexual assault/rape, menstration, postpardum depression, and more.

2 thoughts on “Resources

  1. Dear Fellow Organization Leaders:

    We’re thrilled to introduce ourselves as a new organization in town called Sex Positive St. Louis, (http://sexstl.com/), an online community resource and central repository for all things related to sexuality in the St. Louis metro area. SEX+STL believes that sex is a healthy, vital part of our lives and should be nurtured and discussed, not treated as a taboo.

    We field questions and concerns from the community. Some examples:

    – I’m 28 and have never had a serious relationship.
    – Where can I meet swinging couples?
    – Is there a bakery in town that will make a boobie cake?
    – I have a rash down there.
    – I want to buy a pink latex dress.
    – I’m looking for a dungeon party.
    – How do I explore responsible non-monogamy?
    – Where can I buy my wife a glass dildo?
    – My partner isn’t into me anymore.
    – Where can I buy pasties for my sexy costume?
    – I write erotica. Do you know of any publishers accepting submissions?
    – I love my wife but I keep fantasizing about men. Am I gay?

    This is where YOU come in. St. Louis has a wealth of great organizations and folks with expertise in specialized areas, but right now it’s all buried treasure.

    We’d like to add your events to our calendar and website to our links page.

    Our goal is to match people with sex-related questions to the right expert or organization. Let’s take the mystery and shame out of sex. There’s no need to lurk in the shadows underground – let’s come out in the open and celebrate! Every day we do our part to replace a sex negative with a sex positive. So rewarding and liberating!

    Please join us for a leadership meet-n-greet happy hour at Sandrina’s (http://sandrinasstl.com/) on Arsenal Thursday, September 23, from 5:30 – 7:30. SEX+STL founders will be on hand – Anna, The Beautiful Kind, Johnny Murdoc, and David Wraith.

    Further down the road, we’ll have all kinds of open events with various focuses – book groups, workshops, demos, speakers and more.

    We look forward to meeting you!
    Sincerely,
    SEX+STL

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