Coming up! (March 24 – April 28, 2014)

The next two weeks are pretty big for us, so be prepared! Next Monday, March 24, from 7:30 to 9 PM, we’re having a workshop on Informal and Formal Negotiation, taught by a local kink community member. We don’t have a location for you yet, but we expect to get one very soon, so keep an eye out here. It’s in DUC 236.

The week after next is Sexual Awareness Week here at Wash U, and having won our Treasury appeal we’re very happy to announce two events that we are really looking forward to. Lee Harrington, a noted educator and kink/bondage expert, will be returning to Wash U to teach two workshops. (Side note: his introduction on his own website, found here, is really awesome, and I don’t want to put words in his mouth, so I’d suggest reading it! I can’t wait to meet him.) Workshop #1 will be ’31 Flavors of Erotic Rope,’ held on Monday 3/31 from 7 to 9 PM in Seigle 304:

“Think that kinky play is too complicated?  With a single piece of rope (provided for you, and you get to take it home), learn from Lee Harrington, the author of “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé” a whole bundle of fun, sensual and kinky things to do with just one rope.  From leashes to improvised whips, erotic restraint to playing dress up, gags to blindfolds, rope has so many more possibilities to be used in an erotic scenario. Come learn some new tricks, or learn your first tie!”

Our rope workshops in the past have been popular, and the GSRM/LGBTQIAP-welcome spin that Lee Harrington brings promises to be fantastic. Come see us at this beginner/intermediate-oriented rope event, and learn something new!

Note that the second workshop carries a content warning for discussion of self-harm.

Workshop #2 will be on Tuesday, 4/1 from 7 to 9 PM in Seigle L003. It’ll be ‘Cutting and Kink: Examining Self-Injurious Behavior, Erotic Play & Body Modification’:

“Individuals self-injure and cut for many reasons: abuse, depression, attention seeking, pain management, rage, anxiety, and more. For kink sexuality, BDSM and body modification community explorers, there are possible alternative outlets for these needs, or physically and energetically safer ways to engage in these behaviors. For these individuals, the same scars born of shame and disgust become marks of honor and survival, or take on other different meanings. In this class we will be presenting findings from interviews conducted within the BDSM and body modification communities among those who have previously been or continue to be cutters (or others using cutting or skin-breaking self-injury behavior as a tool not related to erotic or artistic partnered activities). We will examine those who have transformed their need for self-mutilation into other forms of expression, or have maintained both sets of behaviors, looking at whether healthy cutting can ever take place in individual’s lives.”

We’re really looking forward to this discussion of the intersection of kink and mental health, and we hope to see you there! (This will be a more intimate event, held in the basement of Seigle; if cutting has touched your life, or if this is otherwise a sensitive topic, please know that you will be in a safe and discreet space. If you feel okay doing so, contact us at and let us know how we can make you feel comfortable.)

ALA News and Updates

Hi! We know we let ourselves fall off the map but we’re back and ready for a great semester. Get excited!

News and Updates:

Our library is now in Olin! They are separate from the main collection so contact Stephanie Atkins if you want access to the books. We’re adding more books, especially some more LGBTQIA/GSRM (whatever acronym you prefer) friendly novels related to kink and, hopefully, some requested erotica. If there is something you would like to see us add in the future please shoot us an email. We’d love to hear from you.

We have events coming up!

  • General Body Meeting:

Come join us February 24th from 7:30-9:00pm in DUC 240 for pizza and drinks! This is a great opportunity to meet other members of the club and get involved in future ALA planning.

  • Intro to Kink Roundtable Discussion:

Come join us March 2nd from 5:00-7:00pm in DUC 239 for a kink related discussion with members of the local kink community. 

We’re hoping to have a workshop on Formal and Informal Negotiation on March 24th and we’ll also be involved in Sex Week (March 31- April 4).

Also, we’ll be trying to make our blog more interactive so we’ll be posting random Alternative Lifestyle related news, kink related fan-fiction and creative fiction found online, as well as book reviews of current kink related novels, etc.

Please feel free to send us links to anything you think would be a good addition to our blog and please feel free to reach out, ask us questions, send us event ideas and suggestions, or just say hi. We’re primarily a resource group so please let us know how we can make ourselves more accessible. We love to hear from all of you!



ALA Library

Hey Everyone!

The ALA library is being moved to Olin Library!

We are really excited about this opportunity to make these resources available to the WashU community!

While we are transferring the books they will be unavailable but an announcement will be made as soon as the move is complete.

-ALA Execs

ALA Presents Multiple Kink Workshops on Wednesday, February 8:

Leather History and Protocol (Interactive Discussion)
Time: 10AM-11AM and 11:30-12:30
Where did all the symbolism behind leather vests, caps and boots come from? How have they become part of a culture with military-strict protocol? Come find out the history, purpose, and modern practice of leather culture from a St. Louis local.

Shibari Rope Bondage Basics (Demo and Workshop)
Time: 1pm-2:30pm and 2:30pm-4pm
Learn how to restrain yourself or a partner with simple, safe, and secure tires from a local rope bondage guru. The first fifteen attendees can keep the rope.

Power Exchange and Play (Interactive Discussion)
Time: 2:30pm-3:30pm and 4-5pm
For those new to BDSM and power exchange, how can we transfer authority to or from someone else to enhance an enjoyable experience.

Exploring Your Sexuality
Come talk with local experts and a Chicago-based professional dominatrix about how to improve your body image and explore your sexuality in a safe and fun way.


*We will try to post locations as soon as possible! We hope to see a lot of you there!

Sex Week is Here!

That’s right – Sexual Responsibility Week takes Wash U by storm starting Monday, February 4.  Check out our calendar for information about all the events.  Also useful are the Sex Week 2013 Facebook page and the Sex Week 2013: Kink Day Facebook page.  Be sure to check out these events put on by the ALA:

Bringing Sexy Back:  A Contest to Make WashU More Sex Positive

Monday, Feb. 4, 5-7:30 PM in Umrath Lounge

Link to the Facebook event


Sex Week: Kink Day on February 6th

Link to the Facebook event

Workshops include:
o Leather History and Culture (Interactive Discussion)
o Shibari Rope Bondage Basics (Workshop and Demo)
o Power Exchange and Play (Interactive Discussion)
o Exploring Your Sexuality (Interactive Discussion)

See the flyer on the Facebook event for more details!

Trans* Awareness Week!

Trans* Awareness Week!

Instead of a workshop this week, we’re going to support Pride Alliance’s event Trans* Awareness Week.  We will be going to the Transgender Safe Space Training on Thursday at 6 PM in Umrath 140, but please go to whatever events work in your schedule!  See the Facebook page for full details of each of the events!

Apply to Leadershape!

Great news!  Leadershape is back at WashU!  This is an AWESOME program and I strongly encourage everyone to sign up if you haven’t already!  If you are a current ALA member and would like a recommendation, send an email to the group mailing list and I (Diana) will gladly recommend you!

Impact Play Rescheduled!

Good news!  The Impact Play workshop that fell off the calendar during midterm season is back on!  It will be held at our usual time, 5-7 PM Thursday, Nov. 1 (location TBA).  Check back here for updates!

Impact play includes spanking, flogging, paddles, whips, and a lot more – especially if one is creative. 😉

This workshop will also emphasize how to be safe when practicing impact.  It’s kind of really important.

Welcome back

Thanks to those who’ve been anxiously checking WashUAltLife for signs of life this semester – we’re finally showing some!  The important upcoming dates, which will also be posted in the calendar, are these:

Wednesday, Sept. 5, 4:30-6p: Activities Fair in the Brookings Quad

Thursday, Sept. 6, 5-7p: Rope Bondage Workshop, led by guest presenter T0ne in the DUC, room TBA

The first rope bondage workshop will be very introductory, and there may be a follow up workhshop to explore Shibari rope bondage in more depth if there is interest.

We hope to see you around!